Lets say you were on a phone call with your father-in-law & he's complaining about not seeing his grandchild enough (because the evil DIL keeps him away from the kid?! Who knows.) This is his chosen rant for the week so just let him go until he tires himself out & it'll all be over soon.
Then lets say during that slightly heated conversation he makes the remark: "Well maybe we just need to take her and you can have visitation."
Would you:
A) LOOSE. YOUR. MIND.
B) Fall on the floor crying.
C) See it as a joke. (Cause when your husband jumps in to take over for you, FIL tells him that you are overly sensitive & it was just a joke.)
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For the record ~ I pulled A & B. Well I hung up the phone (by way of throwing it into the wall) and then hit my knees in a panic attack/crying. And then I lost my ever loving MIND. He was on the phone with his mother and I was yelling about knowing people in Canada & "I'll take her across the border faster than they can find the interstate." and something to the effect of if his dad felt froggy he better bring it on 'cause I would kick his ass into the grave before he took my child from me.
Hubs proceeded to beg his parents to never screw with me about custody. He saw me eyeing the closet with the luggage. He knew I was already halfway through plotting & on to figuring out how to fit all her stuff & mine into my small car.
Maybe it set me off because it felt like a vision of the future. If something ever was to happen to my marriage ~ I have no doubt that FIL would spend $$$$ to keep me from getting full custody.
Was I wrong? Does that line sound like a joke to any other moms?
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7 comments:
Totally CREEPY. No one should ever say that to anyone. Of course you should lose your shit. What an ass.
That most definitely does NOT sound like a joke. There is nothing funny about threatening to take a woman's child, and it shouldn't have been said. I would have had the same reaction you did. Just thinking about not having full custody of your own child is unimaginably scary. My daughter is everything to me as I'm sure yours is to you.
I would have lost my mind as well, along wiht the screaming, crying, phone throwing and a great deal of profanity added in.
That was most definitely NOT a joke. That was a sad, passive-aggressive little man saying out loud something that has been bouancing around in his tiny brain. And regardless of whether he was "serious" about it, it was STILL a threat. Even if he had no intentions of doing it, he still tried to use the threat of it to get his way.
It was wrong and I would be hard pressed to EVER let him see my kids - espcially unsupervised, what with his threat to "keep" them. I'd let him know that such threats will NOT be made if he wants to continue a relationship. Bunny was right - it's creepy.
It's not at all funny, but unless there's some reason he actually could do that, I think I'd just react with complete silence because I wouldn't know what he could possibly mean. If someone said that who DID have the power to take my child away, THEN I'd cry and scream.
WTF? I agree with eleventy-fifth. Maybe dig around and find out what are the grandparent rights in your state are if any....and have your HUSBAND make it clear to him that if he pulls that shit again there will be no relationship with the children period. (easier said than done I know, but still)
ok, funny. I just got your comment on my dashboard...I've been here reading the whole time, but thanks for the invite to come on down anyway! :) I've got all the Constances in my constance google reader, just so I don't miss a thing!
Checked in with Lawyer Dude who said grandparents would have to prove to social services that the parents were unfit before anyone could take your kids away. And SS is LOATHE to take kids away from the natural parents, so I think your FIL is insane and isn't likely to be able to do such a thing.
But that clearly he was trying to freak you out. I'm terribly sorry that these are your inlaws.
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