Wedding Whining Post #2

Bubba's wedding invitation showed up this week & it requests that you go to the couple's wedding website and RSVP. So you know I wandered around the website and looked through everything!

All of her sisters are bridesmaids.

One of her brothers-in-law, our cousin & my Father are groomsmen. (Daddy is the Best Man)

The rest of her brothers-in-law are ushers, as are several of her cousins.

I am the only sibling not playing a role in this wedding.

Am I the only wedding guest who thinks it's family drama, tacky, or highly interesting when only one sibling is left out of a wedding party? Hell, even ESil was the wedding coordinator for my wedding! She wasn't a bridesmaid but she was running the show backstage & everyone knew it.

The only niece (Princess) isn't in the wedding either ~ Bubba told me a few weeks ago that they thought it would be too hard since she wouldn't be able to walk. HUH!? Dude, she RUNS now! And she can walk an entire 30 feet before she trips now too. But our mother didn't think she would be able to walk the aisle in June so she talked Bubba out of using my daughter.

Isn't that my call to make whether my daughter can walk down the length of an aisle? All she needs is one person to let her go at one end & someone she knows & likes to be at the other end. Besides, flower girls are supposed to be cute & little & distractible ~ she fits all of that. Now there is no way in Hades she could have stood there for the wedding, but she can walk a line!

I'm just ticked that my mom takes it upon herself to constantly make decisions about what to include me or my family in, just like with what she thinks we "need" to know.

This is the only wedding that my daughter could be in for her aunts or uncles & my mom talked them out of asking her. I know it's not a huge thing for Princess (at less than 2 years old) but it feels like we're expected to make an appearance but we'd better not be noticed after we walk in the door. I don't know how to explain it ... Princess & I are expected to tow the line, show up & look pretty & then sit down & shut up while the real family has their wedding.

Clarifying: I do not in any way feel that this is how my brother & his fiance feel ~ but I know that they follow my mother's word as law because they know the penalty for disobedience is banishment. They know it's true because that's what happened to me. She banished me almost 13 years ago & the only reason I've come close to being accepted back is because I have the only grandchild. The kid is accepted, I'm just the begger at the door who changes the diapers.